“You have to face the lifetrap head-on and understand it. Change also requires discipline. You have to systematically observe and change behaviors every day. Change cannot be hit-or-miss. It requires constant practice.” – Jeffrey E. Young – the creator of schema therapy and a transformative figure in modern psychology
Jeffrey Young developed schema therapy in response to the limitations he observed in traditional forms of cognitive behavioral therapy, particularly with clients experiencing chronic, deeply rooted emotional difficulties. After studying at Yale University and the University of Pennsylvania—and completing postdoctoral work under Aaron Beck, the father of CBT—Young realized that many people struggle with what he called “lifetraps,” now more widely known as early maladaptive schemas.These are enduring, self-defeating emotional and cognitive patterns established in childhood, usually due to unmet core emotional needs.
Young’s work led him to found the Schema Therapy Institute, where he and his colleagues developed integrative methods that blend cognitive, attachment, psychodynamic, and experiential approaches. Central to schema therapy is the insight that awareness alone isn’t enough—patients must actively and systematically challenge and change their ingrained reactions and beliefs. “Lifetraps” or schemas can’t be altered by insight alone; they demand disciplined, daily effort to observe one’s thoughts and behaviors and to practice new, healthier ways of responding to life’s challenges.
This quote distills Young’s belief that enduring change is a process, not a single event: it requires direct confrontation with one’s schemas, daily self-observation, disciplined practice, and persistence. The path to change, as Young outlines in both his professional texts (Schema Therapy) and his bestselling self-help book (Reinventing Your Life), is structured, intentional, and ongoing—a philosophy that has helped millions worldwide recognize and heal their deepest emotional wounds.
Leading with EMS or Leading Those with EMS
In leadership and workplace settings, understanding EMS has profound implications. Leaders with unaddressed schemas may unconsciously enact patterns such as perfectionism, avoidance, mistrust, or overcompensation, which can undermine their effectiveness and harm team dynamics. For instance, a leader with an “unrelenting standards” schema might push themselves and their team too hard, causing burnout and resentment. Conversely, an “abandonment” schema might result in over-accommodation or difficulty setting boundaries, diminishing authority and clarity.
Leading individuals with EMS requires attunement, clear boundaries, and consistent, compassionate communication. It is important to recognize when an employee’s reactions may stem from deep-seated patterns rather than surface-level conflicts or incompetence. Effective leaders:
- Provide structured feedback and clear expectations.
- Model emotional regulation and transparency.
- Encourage open dialogue about challenges and stressors.
- Offer support for professional development that includes emotional intelligence and self-awareness.
- Avoid reinforcing negative schemas through punitive, inconsistent, or excessively critical management styles.
Leaders who are aware of EMS—in themselves and in others—can foster a work environment that supports psychological growth, resilience, and healthy relational patterns. This not only improves individual well-being but also enhances collective performance, creativity, and loyalty. Ultimately, addressing EMS in the workplace is about creating a culture where people can move beyond self-defeating patterns and realize their full potential, both individually and as part of a team
About Jeffrey Young
- Jeffrey E. Young (born 1950) is a renowned American psychologist best known for developing schema therapy and founding the Schema Therapy Institute.
- He trained at Yale University and the University of Pennsylvania under Aaron Beck, and became deeply interested in helping clients with persistent problems not fully addressed by traditional therapies.
- His approach revolutionized therapy for those with personality disorders, chronic depression, and long-standing relationship patterns, opening new avenues for psychological healing through an emphasis on self-discipline, daily practice, and compassion.
- Young’s books, including Schema Therapy and Reinventing Your Life, have become primary resources for both professionals and the general public, making the process of facing and changing fundamental life patterns widely accessible.
This quote embodies the core message and method of schema therapy: change is possible, but only through purposeful, disciplined, and sustained action.
